Oh man, I was happy to see the thread but scarred by the answers poor guy got. Seriously people, its just sex, take it easy. If its two people doing things consensually, whats the big deal?
But anyway, lets Sex things up a bit!
1) Couple who have sex before marriage are Dirty, those who dont are angels!
Bullshit. Its a personal thing. As long as its mutual between you and your gf, and both of you want it, there is nothing wrong, and its no one's business. Not even your parents. Infact having sex before marriage is a very good thing for all the reasons others have mentioned. The best being that you arent restricting your self to stupid moral and social restrictions and exploring the depths of your love! Just make sure it is what both of you want. There is no room to coerce, force or pressurize someone into doing it. Keep that in mind.
2) OMG people have no business in what you do in the bedroom!
Yeah sorry but that's what people do. That is what friends are for, to ask you awkward questions about sex! I mean come on! They are probably getting a kick out of you being so irritated by their questions. Just say "sorry man its personal" and be done with it!
3) I dont want to do it but im just asking!
Haha the best one ever. Mate if you both act like you never want to do it, you arent getting any. Be forthright about what you like! Dont be so shy about wanting sexual pleasures. Its probably the most natural thing to crave. Take her to a good relationship counselor and let her explain it to your gf if you are too shy.
4) BUTTT losing Virginity before marriage? I will be cursed and sent to hell!
God didnt give you a ding-dong so it can rot in your jockeys! In older times people got married at 14-16 right when they went through puberty. Hence the whole marriage thign was somewhat reasonable, but now? ITs just plain torture inflicted upon poor young souls. Im sure any american reading this is probably laughing his pants off! And if she is so worried about virginity, theres always..
5) But its SEX.
Yes its sex, cross that hurdle and find your way into the wonderful world of sexual pleasures and fetishes. Its not wrong! What is wrong is denying each other the pleasures that you are hard wired to crave! If you want to find anything there's
Society for Human Sexuality or plenty of other online resources. Yes there is porn too, but if you are a first timer then stay away. Theres a huge world of pleasures out there just waiting to be explored. It doesnt take a billion dollars but just two willing people to explore.
Ok im convinced, Lemme at her! - Good. Get a few packs of condoms. Practice putting them on, get used to the feel. Show her too. Get her to ask her doctor if she can be on the pill too. Most arent harmful. Except the 24-48 hrs morning after pills! Look at pictures, find how the body of a woman looks, where you have to put your thang, where else you can put with some practice and love.
Wait, is there a way to enjoy the pleasures with out losing Virginity?
Well google for cunnilingus, oral sex, anal sex, 69, and for random ways to sexually please him/her/gender neutral pronoun.
Explore the world together and you'l find yourself being much closer to each other than you ever were. And for god's sake dont give into the whole sex is evil propoganda. Remember where you came from! (and i mean it literally.)
